よく二次元に住んでいる王子様という生き物（ゲーム『レンドフルール』より）
なぜ王子様と出会わない？（ナンパされる話）
Why haven’t I met my prince yet?
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なぜ誰かが近寄る度に既婚者じゃなければ、プレイボーイや変態ばかりみたいし、『いい男』はどこにいるのかと考えている女性の方は多いかもしれませんが。それには理由があるようです。
Why? many women may be wondering, if any men were to pay attention to them, why they would almost always be married men, playboys, or perverts, and that where all the “good men” are? Well, there probably is some good explanation.
例えば、楽観的に言ったら、そういう『いい男』が5人中1人ならば、5回か10回ナンパされてその人が全然現れないのは、普通にいい男はナンパすべきか？と。
For example, if we are going to be optimistic for the matter and say that in every five people there is one such “good man,” but still after being approached five or ten times that man does not seem to appear at all, at this point it raises a question that why should a good man feel the need to ask you out that much?
もし金銭的ではなくても、見た目や性格がいい人なら、確かに候補者としての女性がある程度います。自分は星のように輝くほど彼はコンフォートゾーンから出るまで場合なら、自分は今のシチュエーションより、もう有名な芸能人くらい色んな男をえらべる立場ではないですか？（もう彼のことがいらないのです）
Even if the man is not rich but generally is a nice person with good looks, it is very likely that he has a satellite of girls around him. Therefore, if you really shine bright like a star enough to pull him out of his comfort zone to begin with, instead of being where you are right now, aren’t you going to be in a position that you are able to pick guys of your choice just like some famous actresses? (That is, you won't need him anymore)
それに、付き合ったらいけるかどうかと躊躇するのは『いい男』らしい考え方だし、軽く進まないと思います。逆に、少女漫画みたいに背が高い、チャラいイケメンが近寄ると曖昧に期待している方がいそうですが、もし彼らが日常的にナンパができたら、習慣のようだし、自分は何人目だと思いますか？
Furthermore, since a “good man” is likely to be more careful about relationship because he is serious with it, he is slower to approach someone. And while you might wish for a heartthrob who is so tall and stylish like protagonists in shoujo manga (girls’ comics) to appear for you, if he would be able to flirt so casually with girls, that is already habitual, so to speak, and how many girls do you think he did the same thing before coming to you?
ナンパのきっかけでいい夫婦になることは多いですが、よく見逃される真実はナンパと話しかけるのは気力が必要なことで、気軽にできないものです。もし男は２、３回告白する経験があってやっと付き合えるのではなく、失敗して、または遊ぶためにやり続けば、真面目さがなくなり、ナンパはただゲームだと気づきます。
Even though there are many married couples who started a true relationship because of casual flirtation, what is often being overlooked is that flirting actually requires more courage than it seems, and is not something so trifle. If a man does not experience just a few times of confessing love before he could successfully start a relationship, but does it over and over because he fails or probably wants to play around, his sincerity would wear off, he would soon realize that flirting is a game.
好きな女は女神のようではなく、いつでも取れるものにならば、本当はそうかもしれませんが、その視点で女性がただ目標に変化するらしいです。
That is he does not see women he likes as being a goddess, but some goods in a convenient store for him to take whenever he wants, which may be somewhat true in reality. And with that view women perhaps turn into just an goal to accomplish.
架空の計算ですが、もし最初に書いた『いい男』が一回勇気を出して、近くいる好きな人に話かければ、ほかの既婚者やプレイボーイは一年間ランダムに知らない女でも数十回ナンパしたら、どっちとあう可能性があると見ますか。
Although it is a rough estimate, let’s say that if it is just “once” that the “good man” mentioned from the beginning musters his courage to talk to a girl he likes whom he is also a close acquaintance of, meanwhile those married men and playboys flirt with random girls for “tens of times” in a year, which do you think you would be more likely to find?
それは現実のシチュエーションです。
This is the real situation.
これらの理由で、多くの人に王子様は近寄らないと思います。
For these reasons, most people would probably never meet the prince of their lives.
SNSか携帯みたいに、知らないメッセージが来たら、好意があるだれかからより、宣伝とか詐欺ばかりです。
It is also the same as on social media and with mobile phone, that whenever there is an incoming message, instead of it coming from a friend or someone who means well, it is almost always an ad or a scam.
追加したいですが、この話にスペインのサッカー選手のジェラール・ピケと歌手のシャキーラの関係が例えになるのではないかと。
I also would like to mention about the relationship of the Spanish footballer Gerard Piqué and the singer Shakira which I think may be quite related to the topic.
別れる前、11年間の関係で彼らには二人の子どももいます。知り合った2010年に『紹介された』きっかけと色んな記事が書いても、少しだけ会ってあまり関係ないシャキーラに連絡し始めるピケは、ナンパと言えるし、彼はなかなかチャラいではないかと。
Before they broke up, they had two children together during their 11-year relationship. Even though on various websites wrote that they met through being “introduced” to each other in 2010, actually they met very briefly and Piqué almost did not know Shakira at all when he started to contact her, which can be said that he hit on her, and it is a fair guess that he has somewhat of a playboy character.
人はチャラいし浮気者ならば、そのままであまり変わらないかもしれません。それは地味に見える男は機会がなければチャラくなれないという意味ではありませんが、例えばミュージシャンとか、もともとチャラいイメージがある人が好きな方は、付き合う途端に彼らがマイホーム主義者などにならないと思います。
When a person is a playboy or a habitual cheater, he would still be himself and would not change much. By that, it does not mean a shy and introvert men will noot be able to turn into a playboy when the chance comes, but such as with musicians, if some people like their playboy image they have from the start, once you date them they are not likely to change to a good husband all the sudden.
少女漫画などと違って、性格は飾り物みたいに好きなときに着替えられないと思います。実は大体人の性格そんなに隠れなくて、冷静に見たら気づくと思いますが。
What is different from a shoujo manga is that personalities are not decorations that anyone can wear whatever they like whenever they want. In fact, most people’s personalities are quite obvious, that we can easily understand if just not being too biased.
しかし、王子様と出会わない、地味に生きるのは現実だというより、『王子様』と見られる人は本当に付き合ったら王子様じゃないと発見するのは過半数です。
However, instead of suggesting that the prince is a fantasy and we should live with reality, most of the times when we really get into a relationship with such “prince” we would find out that he is not really a prince.
「王子様じゃなければ、一般人でもいいよ！」ということより、もっと良くないのです。
And unlike how you might say “he doesn’t need to be a prince, just a normal guy is enough!” the meaning is somewhat worse.
例えば好きなイケメン芸能人とかは、夜が来たら普通に彼らは何していると思いますか？ファンレターを何度も読んで微笑むなどではないらしいですが。
Such as with handsome actors or musicians, what do you think they normally do when the night comes? Reading fan letters over and over smiling to themselves and such, or not so?
